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Gaming woes.
Aug. 25th, 2011 08:36 pmI need to vent. Some of you (the people on Plurk) have already heard about this.
(ETA added - 8/26)
( On handling group issues effectively... or, in this case, not doing so. )
I'm done ranting. Feeling slightly better now - mostly I just wanted to post my side of the story somewhere, since I was given no opportunity to do so in a meaningful way to the group. There was no indication that hearing my (or our) side would have made any difference. It was presented very much as a thing that had been decided.
I've already had a couple of people tell me that I'm right to be unhappy about this. I'm trying to believe them, although there's always the lingering feeling that I'm overreacting. :/
ETA 2 - Well, a couple of people have apologized for the "package deal" thing. That's something. Still, the fact that we were dismissed outright from the group for this with no other attempts at conflict resolution is enough to make me not want to continue with them.
ETA 3 - I finally managed to compose a more polite message that discussed the most irritating things with some of the group members, including the ST. The response that we got back was essentially that the other player gave an ultimatum with no room for discussion. The ST had to choose between gaming with him and gaming with my SO, and he chose the other guy because he's been gaming with him longer and wants to continue to do so. Which pretty much confirms most of my suspicions and makes me even less inclined to want to continue with this group, or to participate in any events involving this particular ST in any capacity, ever again.
...bah.
(ETA added - 8/26)
( On handling group issues effectively... or, in this case, not doing so. )
I'm done ranting. Feeling slightly better now - mostly I just wanted to post my side of the story somewhere, since I was given no opportunity to do so in a meaningful way to the group. There was no indication that hearing my (or our) side would have made any difference. It was presented very much as a thing that had been decided.
I've already had a couple of people tell me that I'm right to be unhappy about this. I'm trying to believe them, although there's always the lingering feeling that I'm overreacting. :/
ETA 2 - Well, a couple of people have apologized for the "package deal" thing. That's something. Still, the fact that we were dismissed outright from the group for this with no other attempts at conflict resolution is enough to make me not want to continue with them.
ETA 3 - I finally managed to compose a more polite message that discussed the most irritating things with some of the group members, including the ST. The response that we got back was essentially that the other player gave an ultimatum with no room for discussion. The ST had to choose between gaming with him and gaming with my SO, and he chose the other guy because he's been gaming with him longer and wants to continue to do so. Which pretty much confirms most of my suspicions and makes me even less inclined to want to continue with this group, or to participate in any events involving this particular ST in any capacity, ever again.
...bah.
